I thought of bringing up this subject because of a comment made on the
message boards in the Empath folder "Empaths of Elanthia. This is only my
opinion of course, because of my knowledge of the medical field in the Real
World and the common Empath Etiquette I was taught as an Empath growing up
in Elanthia. I happen to work in the medical field, in the real world,
I have been doing it since i was 14 yrs old (i actually started when i was
10 yrs old as a volunteer helping my mother with the elderly) Thats MANY
years of working with the elderly, the mentally handicapped, the injured,
the visually impaired, the hearing impaired, alcoholics, Alzheimer's patients
and so on.
When a patient comes in, he/she has the RIGHT to say who they want or
dont want helping them, therefore, we are to ASK if they have a specific
doctor they would like to be seen by. If in a big facility of course
such as a HOSPITAL, the patient would reply with "it doesnt matter, or they
would mention a doctor they had seen in the past, or a family doctor...
In elanthia this would be northgate and YES even TSC as well as other
small empath gathering areas.
If a patient is brought in to the hospital by another because
of major injuries, and/or cannot speak for themselves for whatever reason,
we speak to the person who brought them in...
Again, in elanthia it would be the FOGGER or DRAGGER beit a cleric,
sorcerer empath or any others who drag them in. We ask if the fogger needs
assistance in healing the patient.
If a patient is brought to the hospital by ambulence, it is our
duty to get him the best possible care we can provide as soon as possible...
In Elanthia this would be someone rushing into lands end yelling "help,"
I'm dying," "I only have a little blood left!" or whatever it is they choose
to say to get immediate help. (most consider this as when we look like vultures,
when not all of us are vulturing but caring for the patient who needs immediate
attention). First thing an Empath should do is TRANS <PERSON>. This
gives the patient blood (hp's), then APPRAISE and you can begin to heal his
wounds. There also seems to be this...myth...that just because someone
walks into a healing area, they are fair game for healing: "you came here,
therefore you want to be healed"...FALSE! This does not give you the right
to paw a person in any means. If they came in, sat down and went into rest
mode, you have no right to touch this person unless they ask you to or if
you notice that they are extremely losing blood from severe wounds and they
don't even realize it (which is quite rare). Even then you should speak to
the patient before touching them. Roleplay it out saying soemthing like:
"M'Lord, that creature you encountered must have been begging for his life,
his blood is all over you."
This does two things:
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It shows respect for the patient and his rights.
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Gives you both opportunity to roleplay (getting to know each other too).
The Paramedics first duty is to CHECK for vital signs and if patient
is conscious, the Paramedics ASK him if he has any allergies or medical problems
they should know about before giving him certain medical attention.
In Elanthia, this would be APPRAISING the patient and ASKING if he
would like you to look at his wounds. Anyway you look at it, the first thing
an Empath should do is ASK the patient if he wishes to be healed OR if said
patient ASKS for medical attention, then you should APPRAISE a patient before
taking any wounds. You need not always ASK but you can do like i mentioned
above...Roleplay it out, stop rushing to get old and get to know the people
around you. Afterall, that is why we are here, to roleplay and have fun.
A hunter may also run into the room asking for help because he is
poisoned or diseased. First thing to do is to PREP 113 (undisease) or PREP
114 (unpoison) CAST <PERSON>, then APPRAISE patient and begin healing
wounds.
There are other cases where as in a DOCTORS OFFICE, there may be one
doctor or two doctors sharing this office, so we ASK which doctor they would
like to see (have an appointment with) (doctors office is usually not
emergencies)....
In elanthia, this would be the same as my first statement about walking
into a hospital, we ASK if they would like some medical attention or wait
for them to ask us if they can be looked at. There is nothing wrong with
asking a patient if they need help... as mentioned in earlier posts on the
boards under Empaths of Elanthia, ya dont even have to ask, but instead strike
up a conversation with them about their wounds with a caring gesture leaving
the choice up to the patient if he thinks he needs/wants healing, by you
or any other empath.
Now granted, some hunters who walk into Land's and have MINOR wounds
and dont say a word they, just stand there... that DOESNT give ANY empath
the right to heal them "just because they are standing there," sometimes
that person doesnt even know they have those minors, an empath will heal
them without asking and the hunter will thank them saying "i didnt know i
had them" or others may rip off your head because they didnt ask you to heal
them, and they feel their privacy was violated. Respect others, get to know
them and their preferences.
Doctors and patients tend to get to know each other and that
patient prefers THAT doctor to help them. If their doctor is not available
the day they go to the office for a check up, it is the patients choice to
see another doctor or just wait til their doctor returns.....
In Elanthia it is similiar... If I am not there to ...lets say... heal
my son, then my son will ask another empath or ask that ANY empath heal him
or if he only has minors, he would or could go look for his mother to heal
him.
I could go on and on about doctor/patient relations, including paramedics,
fireman and policeman who sometimes are involved, but it would take up a
whole novel... theres ALWAYS something new to learn in the medical field
and some old practices never die.
The point is, unless the patient is in dire straits, then the empaths
have NO right touching ANYONE without given permission or that you already
know the hunter doesn't mind being ambushed. This of course includes fogged
in patients.... which is about the only time i get to heal and even then
my fogged in patients are stolen from me.
In the Real world, Doctors have to ask permision from the patient, if
patient is coherent enough, OR ask their next of kin for permission to operate
on the patient...
This is the same as in Elatnhia... YOU do NOT have permission to touch
ANYONE without their consent. If they run in asking for healing, then by
all means heal them, unless they have asked someone in particular. If
they enter the room and do not ask for healing, chances are they either don't
want any healing or don't realize they are bleeding.
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Consent & Respect:
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They ask YOU or any empath to heal them
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You know the hunter and his preferences
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If they tell you it's ok to heal them anytime without asking
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Roleplay it out with the hunter encouraging him the opportunity to roleplay
his part
Granted, Some of the Elder Healers are set in their ways and do not often
ask a patient...BUT they DO still go by Empath Etiquette. They respect the
wishes of their patients if asked to stop or if asked not to heal them.
SOME Healers i have seen thru the years have NO respect whatsoever for
the patient nor their fellow healers. One whom is the talk of the lands these
days, is that of one on Teras Isle, who has quite a reputation for sitting
on her arse all night healing away everyone that wanders in, whether other
Healers are there or not, or whether she is asked or not. I once tried talking
to this Healer about it...but the reply was very childish, snotty and might
i mention Out Of Character <smirk> When I asked if this healer would
slow down some and let the new/younger Noble Healers help the hunters as
well...her reply was: "I'm not stopping them and I can't help it if i type
120 words a minute faster than you people." You people? <roll
eyes> It's really sad we have such selfishness in some folks,
not willing to bend alittle for their fellow colleagues.
Now, Jypsie goes by the rules Etiquette, and yes someone mentioned it
in their post, i think it was Vegra, by goin by these rules I have not been
able to heal merely ANYONE because of those who DONT LOOK, APPRAISE, NOD
or give a rolton's arse about the patient to acknowledge the patient they
are about to heal. By the time I nod or appraise the patient, they are already
healed by ten other empaths. It can be very frustrating when you like to
ROLEPLAY the whole scenario...
NOTE: If you do like to roleplay your empath while healing, TSC is NOT the
place to go.
And dont tell me to go elsewhere because for one thing, it is so
immature, and another thing, nowadays there ISN'T anywhere else
to go and roleplay my Empath in healing without falling over some empath
eager to gain experience rather than care about the patient or the
roleplay (usually under the category of fogging to a patient, I locate and
all i see is the patient, i fog to said patient and there's a dozen empaths
and clerics there, and usually the SAME foggers who dont bother locating).
Example: One day i stood at the gate not getting any healing in edgewise
cept for those who ask me specifically, when one hunter walks in and asks
"Is there anyone who could help me?" As i NOD to him and asked what he needed,
IMMEDIATELY I see empaths "groping" the hunter for wounds.... the hunter
HAD NO WOUNDS. He was merely asking for directions to get to the chasm on
the glatoph. This was uncalled for.... you may not think you are a vulture
or you may claim to think that you do care about your patients but, look
at yourself next time someone asks "can someone help me?" and you immediately
try to heal him without even APPRAISING or asking him what he needs. It does
NOT always mean he needs healing and perhaps the hunter would also like to
roleplay it out, as well as ask a specific healer he feels is willing to
join along with his roleplay. If you are in such a hurry
to heal folks, perhaps you can be just as fast at
acknowledging their needing your help in other areas such
as when they ask someone to help them
find their way around town or help them to
find places to hunt instead of ignoring them. ;)
If you dont want to roleplay, which is the soul purpose of these lands,
and someone IS trying to roleplay, respect the hunter and let him roleplay
it out before you go groping for his wounds.
The other day, I FOGGED in a patient (my first healing in 3 days), a
Young empath started healing him while i was announcing that "so & so"
needed Lk because i ran out of it. I asked her to stop, but she continued
healing him after peering at me... I whispered to her that it would be
appreciated if she could ask me if she could help him next time for i was
the one who fogged him in and if she would like to learn more empathing i
would gladly help her..... Her reply was: "If ya dont want anyone else to
heal your patient then fog him somewhere else."
<chuckle> Obviously she was old enough to take major wounds so
where did that statement come from? Did she not learn or try to learn empath
etiquette? She continued to say that she was tired of other empaths telling
her how to heal. Well they wouldn't be telling her if she
had learned etiquette in the first place. (I later found out the girl
is my neice <sigh>).
There was only one area we were allowed to fog to and that is the North
Gate, she was old enough to know this, yet she did not know? Ignorance
is bliss they say...NOW that the comet has altered our fogging abilities,
we now fog to random areas in each town. Some areas are a risk to fog randomly
to such as areas in Pinefar and Icemule. So do becareful fogging your patients,
especially if you intend to do field healings/raisings.
Everything always seems to fall back on the Empath, its the empath
thats said to be so bad, what about the hunters who do the complaining? do
they complain because they really dont want empaths touching them or do they
do it just have an excuse to be violent towards others? If they really meant
it then they should work with us and help us teach the younger, OR noncaring
empaths the right ways of empathing and that is COMMON COURTESY, RESPECT
for the empath as well as the patient, and GRATITUDE (not necessarily coins
or gems either, a simple & sincere thank you is all that is needed).
I have helped many a traveler in the lands in every town and it wasnt
always with healing... giving rides to and from Icemule, showing people how
to get to certain areas, donating gems and coins from the Wolf Clan for deeds
for the young, & a whole lot of other things such as RAISING the dead
and picking boxes.
Empathing does not just stop at healing. Empaths can do many things, There
are many types of Empaths, like in the real world there are many types of
Doctors... YOU could be that special caring Empath.... Jypsie is an Empath
Extraordinaire, an Empath of all trades so to speak (yes, I pick and blast
boxes too!)... The past year she has focused her talents on Raising the dead,
no, she doesn't get ANY experience for it except the fact that it makes her
feel good that she helped someone who needed her help.
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Patient's Rights...
A hunter has a right to refuse any medical attention whether dead or
alive. If he is dead and has severe wounds, yet refuses to be healed before
being raised...he DOES have that right and you should respect his wishes
instead of ignoring him, blacklisting him and then insulting him for refusing
medical attention. When a patient refuses medical care, it is NOT your
responsiblity but his own if anything happens to him upon being raised. Simply
help the Cleric TEND the patients wounds and go on to the next patient in
need of help(Such hunters as Kythe
& Knewl, realizing the risks, still refuse to
be healed, dead or alive, by ANY Empath and often carry their own herbs).
Do not state that you will never heal him again, for that is SO
unprofessional. If your excuse is that it takes too long to tend the major
wound, well then i feel sorry for you, because that only makes me see that
you are VERY selfish and uncaring for the patient. I would be thinking
that you only care about the experience and just want to get on to the next
hunter to heal/raise for more experience...
Why are you in such a hurry? What is your purpose of being here, of being
an empath? There's nothing wrong with wanting to go forward but there is
no hurry, take your time and enjoy the ROLE. We are here to have fun,
and to ROLEPLAY. So let's enjoy ourselves, take our time and
Roleplay.
Either way, ALWAYS remember.... A person's body is their privacy, and
it is in violation of their privacy to touch another person's body without
given permission.
As I said, I have a odd way of explaining things but i do know I
get the idea across. Thank you for reading my Journal.